How To Respond To Rejection


how to respond to rejection

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It is important to talk about how to respond to rejection because we get that a lot.

We experience rejection when somebody says “no” to us or when we post something on social media and nobody likes or comments on it.

On this episode, we’re going to talk about different ways on how to handle rejection and how to stay motivated so you accomplish the goals, dreams, and desires you have.

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KEY TAKEAWAYS


arrow-iconThe first key to creating a buffer is self-care.

arrow-iconMake sure your basic needs are taken care of and you’re in an emotional strong state so you can handle whatever response you get back from people.

arrow-iconBe selective about the people you call friends, about your social media feeds, and the conversations you choose to engage in.

arrow-iconTake rejections are feedback.

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TRANSCRIPTION: HOW TO RESPOND TO REJECTION


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Kamala Chambers

On this episode, we’re going to be talking about rejection, why it’s important to talk about, and how to respond to rejection.

How To Respond To Rejection And Create A Frame Around It

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Luis Congdon

Hey, Thriving Launchers.

Today, we want to talk about rejection, and to create a frame around what rejection is. It is basically anytime that somebody tells you “No,” “No, thank you. We’re not interested,” “That’s too expensive,” “We can’t afford you,” or “No, thank you. Please move on,” or when you do a Facebook post or social media post and nobody comments and likes on it, or when you go after something big, some sort of dream and it falls flat.

Personally, I think all of those are forms of rejection and the thing I want to talk about is first, we get that a lot. Second, how do you work with it? Do you know how to respond to rejection? How do you deal with it and how do you stay motivated so that you do accomplish the goals, dreams, and desires you have?

How To Respond To Rejection In Personal And Business Life

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Kamala Chambers

Yeah. It’s a big rough ball of crap.

Rejection is hard. It’s something I struggle with in my personal and business life. I found a sneaky way around rejection as much as I can where, Luis, I put you in the positions where you’re the one that has to handle and deal with all the rejection, and I’m the one that just deals with all the back-end stuff.

We don’t always have a buffer like that but, I’d like to hear from you Luis, how do you do that? How do you handle the entire “no’s” that it takes to get to a “yes”?

How To Respond To Rejection As The Name Of The Game

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Luis Congdon

Something to share with you guys is I write for several major publications. Kamala and I co-write for some publications together, we run this podcast, we invite guests on the show, we have several digital products, and we write emails. We do a lot of things where rejection is the name of the game.

If you invite people on your podcast, some people are going to say “no,” while some aren’t going to respond. If you want to get published in magazines or be interviewed, you’re going to get some people that aren’t going to be interested or frankly, they’re going to be flat out rude and give you rejection. And for me, this used to hurt me.

The way other people responded to my pitches and to me asking if I could contribute or share or sell somebody something, I struggled with it.

Kamala has watched me go through this process of being challenged with the process of dealing with people saying “no” to me or having people just not like me for some reasons. I think those are all forms of rejection.

How To Respond To Rejection – Create Buffer

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Luis Congdon

Kamala made a good point. I think the first thing we need to do on how to respond to rejection is to create some buffer, and Kamala’s been smart. She’s figured out her buffer is to let me be in the spotlight to some degree.

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Kamala Chambers

It’s you.

The Tradeoff When You Learn How To Respond To Rejection

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Luis Congdon

There’s a buffer and with that though, there’s a tradeoff.

I am now somebody that’s in the forefront of our business, I’m a lot more public than Kamala is, and the tradeoff is Kamala then isn’t talked to as much by people, and might not be seen as often..

The other tradeoff, so to speak for me, is I deal with a lot more of the rejection, the “no’s” and the conversations that don’t feel very good sometimes.

I think the first key to creating that buffer though is self-care. Kamala, this is something you’ve cultivated over time. It’s learning how to care for yourself and your needs.

How To Respond To Rejection – Self-Care

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Kamala Chambers

Yeah.

With rejection, it’s something that I respond negatively to and I’m not saying that I’ve figured it out by any means, but my way on how to respond to rejection is through self-care, by taking the space I need to make sure I’m not putting myself out there from a place that’s ungrounded or unstable.

How To Respond To Rejection – Be In An Emotional Strong State

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Kamala Chambers

I have to make sure I’m rooted in myself and my basic needs are taken care of, and I’m in an emotional strong state so I can handle whatever response I get back from people.

Kamala Chambers How To Respond To Rejection Thriving Launch Podcast

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Kamala Chambers

There’s always going to be some response that you don’t like, right Luis?

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Luis Congdon

As somebody who deals with a lot of different people on a regular basis as the salesman, the guy who goes out and pitches, does interviews, and does a lot of stuff that’s out in the forefront, something I’ve admired that you’ve done Kamala on how to respond to rejection is you become selective about the people you call friends.

How To Respond To Rejection – Be Selective

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Luis Congdon

You are selective about your social media feeds and the people that you follow, and the conversations that you choose to engage in.

As somebody who made it their business to talk to a lot of people like for me personally, it’s part of my business to engage lots of people, I’ve learned the hard way that I have to get better and have improved that part of me.

I unfollow a lot of people that aren’t exciting for me or don’t make me feel good. I minimize conversations with people that don’t feed my soul or nurture me somehow, or people that ask for a lot of free advice and continually do so through social media.

How To Respond To Rejection – Importance of Your Community

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Luis Congdon

I minimize the amount of time I spend conversing with those people and I increase the time that it takes for me to respond, and that’s something I got from you around self-care. It is the importance of your community.

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Kamala Chambers

Yeah, that is definitely one of the biggest pieces for me. It is just being selective, having that discernment of the kind of people I want in my world.

If I feel like someone is not there as a supportive force or is not an inspiring human being, then I just redirect my energy elsewhere.

Learn How To Respond To Rejection To Keep Thriving

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Kamala Chambers

Luis, one thing I want to hear from you is you seem to thrive when you get a lot “no’s,” and I know a little bit about your story. Like when you were starting out, you sent out over a hundred emails trying to get guests on your show before you had anything going on, and you kept going.

How did you do that? How do you have the fortitude to take that rejection as a positive thing rather than just a complete devastation?

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Luis Congdon

That’s a fantastic thing to talk about because something that I’ve learned about people and their desire to have success is that a lot of times, people think of the ultimate goal, and that’s the only thing that they see, the only thing that excites them. If they’re not reaching that, they’re unable to stay motivated.

How To Respond To Rejection – Never Give Up

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Luis Congdon

For example, today, I pitched Forbes magazine again. A couple of weeks ago, I pitched Forbes magazine. A couple of weeks before that, I pitched Forbes magazine. A week before that, I pitched Forbes magazine. A week before that, I pitched Forbes magazine.

This is something close to three months of me pitching Forbes, and I went from pitching just the magazine to then, finding someone I could pitch, then writing that person several times. They finally responded and said, “We’re going to take a look.” Then they responded and said, “Hey, something happened. We’re not going to be able to get you in,” to then “Here’s another person you can talk to,” to then, someone else saying “Here’s another person you can talk to,” and just following that.

How To Respond To Rejection – Taking It As Feedback

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Luis Congdon

What has helped me take those “no’s” and those rejections is as long as I’m hearing and getting some feedback, fantastic. It’s all feedback.

So when I sent those hundreds of emails trying to land those amazing interviews, I just looked at every single thing I did as feedback.

One of the mindsets I have around this thing is “I’m never losing. I’m never failing as long as I’m taking the information I’m given, and I’m improving upon it.”

How To Respond To Rejection – Utilize The Information You Get From It

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Luis Congdon

First, I sent out a pitch to Forbes, I got no response. Well, the information is something is off so I’ve got to figure out how to get a response. Then, I got a response, “Oh, fantastic.” Then I got another response which was, “No. You’re not going to be a fit right now for this column.” “Oh okay. Great.” But I got a response, right? And maybe my writing is good enough and maybe I just need to talk to someone else.

Luis Congdon How To Respond To Rejection Thriving Launch Podcast

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Luis Congdon

And so, I’m never being rejected. I’m only getting further in my journey and in my goal, and in my desire to get there.

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Kamala Chambers

Is it more like Luis where you’re taking that as a positive feedback on what you can do to improve and what you can do to get to where you ultimately want to go?

Is it more like me that you just practice extreme self-care and try to make sure you’re in a grounded and solid place so that any form of rejection you’re receiving back is not going to completely knock you off your center?

I like to hear other ways people are experiencing that and moving forward.

Feel free to reach out to us on social media or email us because this is a big important topic.

Different Ways On How To Respond To Rejection

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Kamala Chambers

On this episode, we’re going to be talking about how to sell items that are $3,000-$10,000, and how to do it on demand with the Clients on Demand System creator himself.

We’re here today with Russ Ruffino. He is the founder and the creator of Clients on Demand System. What he’s doing is he’s helping people learn how to sell programs that are $3,000, $10,000 and more.

He’s helped hundreds of entrepreneurs around the globe sell millions of dollars’ worth of their products and services, and we’re excited to have him here.

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